“Homophobia – the irrational fear and hatred of those who love and sexually desire those of the same sex.” This is what Pharr’s eye-opening article is all about. In a world of intense homophobia, its harmful effects keep many of our population in fear or in danger. As human beings, we have been forced to conform since, well, forever. We are looked at as an “outcast” or “not good enough” if we don’t think, speak, and act the same as everyone else. Women live each day with the possibility of being accused as a lesbian. God forbid a woman do a “man’s job” or spend time with a group of women or be independent.
It really opened my eyes when Pharr pointed out that basically anything can trigger the accusation of a woman being a lesbian. If she is single with children and no interest in finding a male partner, she is criticized. Maybe her favorite things to do are drink beer and watch football… nope, that’s too manly. Perhaps a woman just wants to work for the rights and equality of women. She is too often considered a lesbian for even something like that. There are certain standards a girl must meet to be considered a “normal” woman. It’s 2011, people. Time to wake up and see that everyone is different, beautiful, and… unique.