“Talking about gender for most people is the equivalent of fish talking about water. Gender is so much the routine ground of everyday activites that questioning its taken-for-granted assumptions and pre-suppositions is like thinking about whether the sun will come up.”
Judith Lorber says it perfectly in that quotation i think. We are always so quick to examine people and whether they are feminine or masculine. She talks about how it’s embedded into us and we don’t even realize we are doing it half the time. I know when I see a baby the first thing I do is looks at his or her clothes to see if it’s a boy or a girl. She also makes the point that white men are usually less likely to be doing the “dirty work” because they are more superior than poor black women. From birth we are divided and that is why there are so many issues when a man acts more feminine, or a woman more masculine. She ends this article by saying, “For humans, the social is the natural.” We as humans automatically assume the way things are done in society is that right way. That is not at all always true, and if we better based our opinions about people on whether or not they use their brains, or if they are ambitious in some way, rather than gender we would probably get a lot farther in life.