Intro to Women's Studies 2010

etsu: 2011-2014


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Cheaper than a Cow//Kennedy

This article discussed the story of a girl who was trafficked into a life that she never wanted. Well it tells at least the parts of the story that the family telling, which probably isn’t a lot. Pornita Das  left her home to “marry” into a family that was supposed to provide a better life for her, but all it really did was make her life miserable. This article tells parts of her story and parts of the story of the girl whose place she took.

There were two main things in this article that were strange to me. The first of which was the person who was actually doing the trafficking. When I think of human trafficking, especially girls being sold to be sex slaves, I always think of men selling these girls to other men to make money off women. However, in this situation, the person who is convincing the families to sell their daughters is a woman. The woman is the one who goes into the family houses and tells them of the great life that she has had, and she is the reason that many of these families give up their daughters. I always assumed that other women would see the wrong in this situation like I did, but apparently that is not so. The second thing that was strange to me in this article was the mother-in-law’s role in Pornita’s new life. It seemed like the mother-in-law had trained Pornita to answer any questions asked about her life by saying she was completely happy, and when she was asked about her sickly appearance and sudden lack of kidney, her mother-in-law watched over her as she told everyone that she was just sick. The fact that women could play such major roles in these situations and not realize how horrible it is astounds me.

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Who Wants to Marry a Feminist?

Feminist are looked at to be women who hate man, lesbians, and people who are just here to make things worse for men. But in this article Lisa Miya-Jervis  tells else about her marriage, and she explains how different things you hear about feminists isn’t always true.

I like this article because it actually lets you know and see a little bit of how a feminist lives and what goes on in their life. I like how she talks about her marriage to her husband and how she doesn’t have to asked him to do anything he just does it. i really enjoyed reading this article.


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Who Wants to Marry a Feminist? Lisa Miya-Jervis

The thought of being of feminist is a hard-core lesbian who hates men. This being the stereotype, feminist come in all shapes and sizes. In this article Lisa Miya-Jervis talks about being a feminist and being married to a man as well. Society has put a persona on the way things should in a marriage, some that should not be. In a marriage I feel as though there should be equal responsibilities placed between a couple but if one enjoys something more than the other go ahead and take hold. I am the first to think that all should remain equal in most besides mine. Since I am a touch of a control freak I do more around the house the my boyfriend. I would rather things be done my way than his and I have to go back over what he did. Some work as a team in task, I would just rather not be slowed down. The thought that men are the bread winners should be late to rest now, it is the 21st century! Everyone can provide for their family not just the male.


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Who Wants To Marry A Feminist? – Lisa Miya-Jervis

Most Feminists are seen as man-hating, lesbian hippies who refuse to marry a man because their identity as being “independent” is taken from them. In this article, Lisa Miya-Jervis explains how, although she is a Feminist, she is married to a man and does not agree with this stereotype.

I liked this article because the author explains how times have changed and marriage doesn’t have to be what it was 40 years ago. An equal partnership is not unheard of, and just because you want that doesn’t mean you are an outrageous Feminist. The roles of a relationship should be divided between both parties equally, and each person’s voice should count. That is what Mrs. Miya-Jervis is trying to say. She says, “By and large i do believe that we’re culturally ready to accept changes in the way marriages are viewed.” Marriage no longer has to be the woman staying at home cleaning, cooking, and looking after the children while the man goes to work and “brings home the bacon.” Times have changed, and Lisa Miya-Jervis is a good example of this.


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Who Wants to Marry a Feminist- Lisa-Miya Jervis

In this article the author explains her views on marriage as a feminist. Feminists are stereotyped as “hairy-legged man haters” who see marriage as nothing more than the stealing of a woman’s identity. The author explains how this idea of marriage is not her own.

I really enjoyed this article. I think the author said it perfectly when she said, “Marriage, now, is potentially what we make it.” Marriage no longer has to be what it used to be. Because of the way feminists have fought for years, woman can be in equal partnerships with men or woman instead of the stereotypical marriage we’ve seen and talked about so many times. I loved how she talked about her grandfather asking what her husband would eat while she was gone on a trip, it sounded so much like my grandfather. I know in my relationship, my boyfriend and I are both better at cooking different things, so we both cook. Same goes for cleaning, we share every responsibility. To me that’s how a relationship should be. I loved this article and how she expressed the reason she wanted to get married.

 


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Who Wants to Marry a Feminist?/Lisa Miya-Jervis

I admired the way that Miya-Jevis thinks and reacts in her writing about the reaction that people have to women, feminists, getting married to men in a “traditional” sort of way. While reading, I can’t really say I disagreed with much of her viewpoints-

“Wasn’t is feminists who fought so hard to procure the basic rights that used to be obliterated by marriage? Because of the women’s right movement, we can maintain our own bank accounts; we can make our own health care choices; we can refuse sex with our husbands and prosecute them is they don’t comply. “

She takes this image that narrow minded people, and even some narrow minded feminist have with feminists-that all hate men, none get married, etc. And those who do get married, lead a different marriage than any other “non-feminist”. However, Miya-Jervis seems to lead a perfectly “normal”, “traditional” marriage; she even says sge wishes she could take the good of marriage and leave out the rest. She admits its not for everyone, but it works for her. And that’s her main argument; just because she may be a feminist, doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to leave alone with cats and hate men for the rest of her life, feminists marry men and lead a normal marriage. I sometimes I feel that feminists may even have a better chance with a longer, healthier marriage possible because they won’t become submissive, the relationship would be more equal (in my opinion).
Also, it was pretty irritating for a feminist to buy Miya-Jervis’s magazine she edits and thus learn of her being married to a man, and become appalled at the fact that she was married..to a man. I didn’t understand such idiocy. However, it also showed that even those who may consider themselves feminist, liberals, can still be extremely closed off.


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Who Wants To Marry A Feminist? by Lisa Miya-Jervis

The popular stereotype that feminists are lesbians, hate men, or both is addressed in this essay. She talks about marriage’s tarnished history for women and how it has a different meaning now. She says that believing the out-dated ideas about marriage only strengthens those who would hold women back. Another thing she talks about is how despite being married her husband’s life has not eclipsed hers.

The part about a woman saying the author was a “betrayal of feminism” was extremely upsetting to me. It’s one thing to hear the offensive stereotypes from ignorant non-feminists, but to hear it from a feminist is somehow disappointing. It shows a lack of solidarity and understanding. How are we supposed to break the oppressive ideas of “marriage is a man owning a woman” if we don’t try to change it? Reclaim it for what it should be about; love? I thought it was a cute and wonderful idea for her and her husband to both change their last name. I liked this reading and I completely agreed with it.