I had a love hate relationship with this article. On one hand I was intriged which compelled me to read on, but on the other hand I was like oh my goodness how can all this unjustice towards women really have happened. There was so many statements that left me appalled for instance a women could get expelled from school if she and I quote “Got herself pregnant”. The last time I checked we aren’t able to get ourselves pregnant; we aren’t asexual.
C.V Harquail posted an article on Facebook (a social networking site) on how she believe Facebook would be if it was designed by a feminists. She made many points and plenty examples. There was one statement that she made that bothered me the most I suppose. “Maybe Facebook for women would have been pink, with flowery text and pictures of cats………..Maybe Facebook designed by women would display the romantic relationship status of each user….”. There was more but these to statements should give you the main idea of what I’m getting at. I don’t know if Harquail was “joking” or serious about the things that she said but, I don’t necessary agree with her matter of fact I don’t agree with her at all. Yes women can be emotional, and express their feelings way more then needed. Not all women think like that. A lot of women are more about business than their romantic status on Facebook. The points Harquail gave maybe a high school girl may design Facebook like that, but grown women are becoming stronger when it comes to business matters. Who says that all women like flowers, cats, and pink. Me personally my favorite color id blue and I’m not that fond of flowers. Also not every women sits around and think about what there “man’ is doing. That’s not the main concentration of every woman is their personal relationship with their partner.
While going through chapter one in our book, I came across a table. It’s not so much that I was shocked at the content of the table. It was the fact that it was only in the last 100 years that some things were made possible.
I knew that women only earned the right to vote in the 20th century. I also know that 100 years seems like a long time ago. But when you really think about it, it’s not. I am 30 years old. Having family members that are over 100 has made me a little more open minded to what they went through.
I don’t know that I would have been able to accomplish my goals that I have set for myself had I grown up then. I wouldn’t be able to attend school. I wouldn’t be able to vote. Nor would I have had the choice to use contraceptives. I also wouldn’t be able to provide for myself or my children like I do now. I would have had to been in a loveless marriage to make sure my children were provided for. I wouldn’t be able to work so therefor couldn’t provide for them.
How could you have survived back 100 years ago?
It is the goal of Women’s/Gender studies to allow a bridge of legitimate understanding between, in our admittedly and overtly patriarchal society, men and women. It is the tool by which the injustices of our (men’s) bias may be illuminated and constructively corrected. This is no small process. It is the rewriting of history as we know it, and as it rewrites history within the perspective of the disenfranchised it will, I think, prove incredibly difficult, if not impossible, due to the repression, and more often than not, eradication, of the texts of these unheard voices. All of this I appreciate and understand.
Having said that, and though I know that this is a Women’s Studies course, it seems instantly hypocritical that the text assumes that the reader is a woman. I understand that a great deal of the goal of this course is to, in fact, empower women where they ought already be empowered, but are unfortunately not. But is not an alternative, and arguably equally important, goal of this course to inform and present the legitimacy of these arguments to a male audience? I must further put forth that I appreciate that our text book was written for an all female student body; and while I’ve no doubt, based on the editing and “pass it on through”, processes of our standing institutions, that the arguments are not only valid and legitimate, but absolutely factual, I can’t help but notice the absolute infiltration of commentary by the author and her opinions. If the text was written for an all female student body, then so be it, it was/is appropriate for its intended audience, but is it truly appropriate for a more broad audience? Men included. Could not the text be edited to be more inclusive of all peoples or, if that be insulting to the author, then should not an entirely different text be used? I will not use the terms, “mankind”, or “all men were created equal”, etc. as I appreciate the bias and inherent ignorance of these statements, but if I am to take these steps to support and further the enlightenment of a truly equal future, I feel I should be rightly insulted when a collegiate course takes liberties in backtracking and justifies it by coming from the other side of the fence with the claim of grass is greener.
If this blog is a bit… forward, I apologize. I am deeply excited about the prospect of this course and the many challenges that I can already see that it will present. However, when I am asked to post my feelings for a class, I will do exactly that and will not coat it with anything other than my legitimate feelings. I will go further to say that, for what it is, the book is well, and whats more, intriguingly written. I am simply offering a commentary from a strictly male perspective.
The part of this article “fear of Feminism” by lisa Hogeland that stood out to me was the part on rape and male violence survivors. This part is so true> Unless you Actually know someone who has shared their entire story with you or you have been a victim yourself, you can never truly know the severity of the effect it puts on that person. not only mentally but physically as well. The mental effects are a main factor as to why young women bewcome feminist. They want to get the word out that Women do actually have a voice. I did not relate to most of this article so therefore i cannot write about it.
In the article Fear of Feminism by Lisa Marie Hogeland, the paragraph that stood out to me was the one where she was talking about how womens bodies are used to sell a product. I myself don’t think seeing a half-naked women in some kind of advertisements will make me just go out and buy the product. I think the reason todays society is using this tactic is to gain attention of a certain audience. Personally I don’t think that using the body to advertise a certain product; shouldn’t be looked down on. As long as it goes with the product, but some advertisements are used wrong such as, a half-naked girl on the car for a beer commercial. I feel that it’s not reason for those kinds of ads. Another point she touched on in this paragraph was that men most of the time are the violent ones in the relationship. I belive it’s not always just the man who can be violent in the relationship. A majority of the time its the women, but you never hear those kinds of stories. Therefore these stories never get told to the public, because they are from a women point of view. Also because in most domestic violence cases it;s unusual for the man to be the victim.
I read an article by Lisa Hogeland on why most young women are scared of feminism. I really would like to talk about the part when she suggest that “Young women may believe that a feminist identity puts them out of the pool for many men” The first time I read it I didn’t really understand what she was saying. I read it a second time and i realized that most feminist hate men. A lot of them concentrate their studies or agenda on how men have treated women and how women were suppose to treat a man for the past 100 of years. Also a lot of feminist are known to lesbian at least that’s what the public believe. So with that being said i can see how young girls believe that being a feminist could jeopardize their relationship with men. Most men aren’t going to want to be in a relationship with a woman who think that all men are scum of the earth, unless they share the same beliefs as a feminist which is rare. Hogeland says that being a “heterosexual feminist ” does not mean you have to give up on an intimate relationship with a man it just mean your going have to work twice as hard to maintain and balance the relationship. Don’t let you feminist views operate your life find ways to express those feelings without hurting you relationship with your partner.