Recently in class we have been discussing virginity and what it means to be a “virgin”. In Jessica Valenti’s article The Cult of Virginity, she states that she could not find a medical definition for virginity, even in the Harvard library. This left the class to try and define it ourselves, and while doing so I learned many other view points on this situation. I have come to the conclusion myself that I will never truly understand what it means to be a “virgin”. I have my own personal beliefs based on religion and family values. It is amazing how while growing up sex and virginity seemed to be a very black and white subject, that was only lightly discussed as I was growing up. I see now that this subject is very controversial and people should be aware of the many different view points; however, I still stand firm on my beliefs.
Also, in Valenti’s The Cult of Virginity, she talks about virginity in the media and how it is portrayed that it is “ideal” for men to want and to marry a “virgin”. She uses Jessica Simpson as an example. However, I had no idea Jessica Simpson was a virgin until reading this article. I believe that the media belittles women by portraying them as images of sex images in music, movies, and television shows. Media seems to try and make sex more common and socially accepted than emphasizing being a “virgin”. I think Jessica Simpson and others who openly admit to being a virgin set a very powerful example for children of younger generations. Also, I believe those who admit to loving sex and being gay are also great examples for children, because children will accept them and love them all as they are.