In class, a discussion that brought a lot of interest to my mind and made me really think about the subject was the idea of having more than one partner in a relationship. In poly relationships, it is common for an individual to have more than one partner, and they are dating and having sexual relations with each partner within the same time frame. Now, this is all personal opinion, but I do not believe in having more than one partner at any given time. If you truly love an individual and are willing to go as far as to classify yourselves as partners, then you should have no desire to ever be with anyone else as long as that person is a part of your life. Love is a weird subject to discuss, but I personally believe that you can only truly love one individual and that there is only one individual meant to steal one’s heart completely in their lifetime. Beyond this individual that has stolen the heart of the other, there should be no desire by either partner to be involved with anyone else beyond their partner. Honestly, poly relationships to me are nothing but an excuse to be able to cheat without any consequences. I do not agree with the idea at all, and will never be able to even think about the idea without thoughts of disgust and dislike.
In today’s society, there are multiple ways different people interpret the word love. For some it could mean a strong, passionate connection between, strictly, two individuals. For others, it may mean sharing the connection between more than two people. This is where polyamory comes up. Polyamory means having multiple partners, as poly means many and amor means love which, in turn, boils down to the meaning of many partners.
This is practiced today all over the world. Some people do not agree with this practice. I, for one, would not participate in anything like it due to my beliefs and that I was raised in a very traditional home where I was taught that a relationship consisted of two people only. However, I also have no place to judge or to say what is right or wrong. If someone wants to have more than one girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife, so be it. I believe that true happiness comes from within and you determine what makes you happy.
In class we watched a video about polyamory. The word derives from the greek root word “poly”, meaning many, and the latin root word “amor”, meaning love; which translates to many lovers, or many partners. Personally, I liked the video really well, because it gave me insight about how some people in the world view relationships. However, I do not completely agree with the concept as a whole.
When I think of relationships, I think of them as traditional; two individuals in the relationship; whether it be male and female, male and male, or female and female. Though my view of relationships is probably completely different from many people out there, it is not my place to tell someone that they should not have multiple partners, because love can come in various forms.
After watching the video “Killing Us Softly” in class I realized just how much women are objectified in society. I found this to be the most interesting topic so far because I am completely guilty to falling under the spell that media has over women. I am subscribed to every Glamour, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and Fitness magazine that has come out in the past couple years, and half of my bathroom cabinets are filled with makeup.
Women are shown by the media at a young age that their value depends on how pretty they are. The media makes it seem that unless you have bones bulging through your body, you should not be wearing a bikini. And if you have acne? There’s makeup for that. However, having a pimple or curves is not only perfectly normal and natural, but it is real. The media raises the bar at a far more unrealistic expectation for girls to have which is to be someone with no flaws. Just like the lady in the video mentioned, sometimes the people being portrayed as perfect in photographs and magazines don’t even look that way. This teaches women to mask themselves with makeup or starve themselves until they’re skinny otherwise they’re not good enough. For generations women are told that if they’re unhappy with their boob size, skin complexion, etc. there are ways to fix it. Women no longer feel beautiful in their own skin unless it is someway “fixed” or manipulated through tanning or foundation.
What is worse is that the women that are selling these products are not even a real portrayal of the object being advertised. By adding a woman who is easy on the eye in a magazine, girls get swayed into buying that product being sold. I know I’m guilty of it. I’m forever thinking “well that girl in the picture has perfect skin, so maybe if I get the skin product being advertised…” But that image is unrealistic because almost all of the ads are edited to be something they’re not, specifically so people will buy it. It’s easy to link a woman displaying some sort of sensual behavior as to being sexy. All men want sexy, and women are taught to be what men want. There will always be a cycle of this which is sad.
When polyamory was first mentioned, I had no idea what it was. I felt like I was not going to be interested in whatever it was dealing with but when Mrs.Tolley-Stokes started to talk about it I was all ears. Watching the videos was even better, so that I could understand it better. The last video we watched, we did not get to finish, made me do a little more research into the topic. I came to the realization that in today’s modern society polyamory could be compared to some relationships now. For example, in a guy can be in a relationship with a woman and then have another woman on the side, which sometimes she does not know about. I thought this was something that was new but apparently it was something that has been going on for years and it has been getting more and more attention over the years. It seemed to me that in today’s society it looks as if we are heading in that direction. I am just curious as to how soon it will be before it happens everywhere and people openly accept it.
Before I start my actual blog post, I feel obligated to enlighten you on my thought process to this topic. I was reviewing the syllabus (because I lead such a thrilling life that entails me to review my class syllabi on a Wednesday night) and I saw that the last film we will review is Fish out of Water. I personally have not watched the film, but I am familiar with the movie and topic it covers. So I was going to blog about that general topic, then I came across the infamous Westboro Baptist Church. So even though my thought process is scattered, it moderately pertained back to a film that we will watch. Continue reading
I recently saw Jennifer Pharr Davis speak on ETSU’s campus about her record setting hike on the Appalachian Trail. One thing she said really stuck with me and tied in extremely well to our discussion about women in advertising this week. She said when she finished her 46-day hike, what she missed most was how beautiful she felt on the trail. She went those 46 days with no mirror and no advertisements to tell her how she should look. If she could make someone smile, she felt the most beautiful. I think that says a lot about how extreme women have to go to get away from advertisements that make them feel insecure-even ugly. Will there ever be a change?